Relational Therapy
"We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship."
— Harville Hendrix
Therapy is a relationship.
Not a transaction. Not a one-sided download of clinical expertise. A relationship, real, messy, alive, and sometimes uncomfortable.
The relationship between us is not just the backdrop for the "real" work. It is the work.
Everything that happened to you happened in relationship. Your first attachments. Your earliest wounds. The ways you learned to be in the world. All of it was relational. And so healing has to be relational too.
Relational Therapy as the Foundation
Relational therapy is the container that holds everything else in my practice.
Parts work, somatic work, energy work, astrology, dreamwork, ancestral healing: all of it happens within the safety of our therapeutic relationship. Without that foundation, none of the other work can land.
This approach is rooted in attachment theory, psychodynamic principles, and relational psychoanalysis, all held within the Neurocomplexity Resource Theory framework.
What Makes Therapy Relational
I show up as a real person. Not a blank screen, not a detached expert, not hiding behind clinical neutrality.
You'll know when something lands for me. You'll know when I'm tracking you closely. You'll know when I'm confused or when I need clarification. This isn't about making therapy "about me." It's about creating a human-to-human connection where healing can actually happen.
How you relate to me often reflects how you relate to everyone else. If you're anxiously attached, you might worry I'm upset with you. If you're avoidantly attached, you might keep me at arm's length. If you're disorganized, you might swing between needing me and pushing me away. We explore what's happening between us in real time, using it as material rather than something to avoid.
I will disappoint you at some point. You might feel unseen, misunderstood, or like I got something wrong. That's not a failure. That's the work. Because what matters is that we repair it together, and you get to experience that relationships can survive conflict and disconnection.
Attachment Wounds Live in the Body
Attachment isn't just a concept. It's embodied.
If you grew up with inconsistent caregivers, your nervous system learned the world is unpredictable. If your parents were emotionally unavailable, you learned to shut down your needs. If caregivers were intrusive or enmeshed, you learned your boundaries don't matter. If there was trauma or abuse, you learned relationships are dangerous.
These patterns live in your body, in your nervous system, in how you show up in relationship with me, with others, with yourself.
Healing attachment wounds requires felt experience, not just insight. You need to feel what it's like to be seen without judgment, to express a need and have it met, to disagree without being abandoned, to be angry without being rejected, to be vulnerable without being shamed.
Relational Patterns We Might Work With
Why do you keep choosing the same kind of partner? Why does every friendship feel like this? What did you have to become to stay safe or to be loved? Where do you end and others begin?
These aren't rhetorical questions. They're the territory.
We look at early attachment and family dynamics, repetition compulsion, boundaries and enmeshment, abandonment and rejection wounds, and the ways you abandon yourself before anyone else can get the chance.
A Note on the Risks of This Work
Relational therapy is deep work. Because it centers the therapeutic relationship itself, it can bring up intense vulnerability, fear of abandonment, dependency, or resistance. Strong feelings toward me, including longing, anger, fear, or distrust, are normal and are material we work with directly. Exploring attachment wounds can bring up grief, shame, or anger about what you didn't receive. Old defenses may soften in ways that feel raw or exposing.
This work is paced to you. You maintain full agency over what you share and when. Relational safety is built slowly, through consistent and attuned presence.
Who This Work Is For
✓ People with complex relational trauma or attachment wounds ✓ Those who struggle with intimacy, boundaries, or trust ✓ Anyone who keeps repeating the same relationship patterns ✓ People healing from narcissistic abuse or enmeshment ✓ Those who feel like they don't know how to "do" relationships ✓ Anyone tired of feeling alone even when surrounded by people ✓ People ready to stop abandoning themselves
Related Work You May Resonate With: Complex Trauma, C-PTSD & Inner Child Healing · Somatic Therapy · Depth & Shadow Work · Transpersonal Parts Work · Therapy for Highly Sensitive People · Therapy for Neurodivergent & Highly Sensitive People
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